The day started off really rough. I did my best to think the best about my wife and her coworker talking till midnight. Very Very VERY hard. I did not stop praying until she had left for work. She knew I was upset but that I did not want to talk about it. Be kind. Be patient. Don't say anything negative.
We later talked and she finally realized how much it bothered me. She actually gave me her coworkers number and said to call him if I wanted. I was able to tell her that I was not upset that she was talking to him, I was upset that she talked to him so much and at all hours of the night. In addition, I told her that I did not like the fact that she felt she had to go to the bathroom and hide to talk to this guy. She told me it was strictly work related talk and them both just blowing off steam about the day. I asked her why she could not blow off steam with me than him. She said it was because they are both in the same type of position and under the same type of pressure and he seemed to understand her. I am not going to lie, that hurt. Yet, I can understand that. I am doing my best to think only the best. I later called the co-worker and told him that I was upset that he was talking to my wife so much and real late. He quickly apologized and said he wouldn't have done that if he thought it would have been a problem. He said he would do his best to not text her so late. I told him I was happy she had someone to talk to about work but that if he was in my position would he be concerned.
We were going to go to the movies for a date night but she had to work late again. Once again I was disappointed at the situation but not at her. We went out to dinner instead. Went to walk around at one of the local stores and then I start hearing the dings from her cell phone going off. Guess who?? She could see the "flood of anger" boiling beneath my calm exterior. She quickly texted him back and he texted an apology saying he did not want me to be upset but that he was just excited about meeting his daily goals and forgot. There were no more texts from him that night.
The dare was one I did not want to do but I did it because I wanted to show her that I cherish her. I cleaned the car for the date night and bought her a small gift to show her how much I loved her. She was happy.
so glad to see you've turned a corner with the coworker situation.
Leslie Holmes
Community Builder