Day 12

Gods love, I'm glad he wins.........

Sean — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 05:00:00 GMT

A blessing in more ways than one....

Re: Day 12 wow not a good day

Sean — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 05:00:00 GMT

First there is a thing or 2 I must point out.

1. When it is your children it is not babysitting. This is an example of the world. Soon you will see that even that thought will change.

2. Be careful with allowing things to happen. You are still responsable for what happens. It is your duty under Christ, to protect your marriage. I understand that trying to put a stop to it would make things worse with her, but you need to pray about this. But think back to before you found Christ. And if the tables were turned. Would you have stopped, would you have truly loved Christ and stopped yourself?

Yes you must focus on your journey, but that does not always mean to just let things happen. Again I have a journal writing about this maybe you should check it out.

Day 12 7/13/2010

Sean — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Or you can look at it as it takes losing someone for us to realize how much we need Chrsit guiding our lives. Then we would not make those mistakes

Day 12 very hard

Sean — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 05:00:00 GMT

God will work on your husband. Have no worry there. Focus on your journey, because you will be a testimony to him.

Day 12 - Lord just take me away

Sean — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 05:00:00 GMT

It is amazing how he gets us to understand things... Even without knowing at first.

DAY 12

Sean — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Crystal, Married or not. Most of these dares are being Christ-Like. Which means the testimony of the actions are ways for you to be in every aspect in life. With everyone around you. So what you are learning from the dares just helps your journey with Christ and him to mold you. You need to reflect the love and Christ through your every move.

Day 12- Is this helping my marriage?

Sean — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Booklover,

First we all start the dare for selfish reasons. To save a marriage. But what we learn during the process is that it is a journey between us and Christ. And that we have controlled the situation all these years and at best we messed it up. This journey will lead you to seeing that we cannot do it alone. We need Christ involved in our lives, not just in our marriage.

This is where it gets tough. We need to TRUST him completely. We need to turn the control over to Christ. Remember we have a jealous God. And when we put anything before him (including our spouse) that is not good. And during this journey we must trust him to the point that we do not interfere with his work. And you not pushing the subject is great. Because if you did, it would be you trying to control the situation and not trusting Christ.

I have written a few journals that I have learned a number of people have gotten a lot out of. Please feel free reading them. And if I may, if you have not read the entire appendix in the dare, please do so today.

Our prayers are with you. And I am sure things will get better if you stay on your journey.

Re: Day 12

Sean — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Chris.

While she is gone. I know it will be hard to do some of the dares. But there are creative ways to do most of them. Read the back of the dare all of the appendix, and there are a number of things that will lead you into way of prayer that will help you so much....

Another day........

Sean — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Well, it is a shame that friends in the Church do what they do. I am happy to see that you have seen them as his friends, and not mentors to you. And their actions show that they are not mentors (to your husband) from a Christian view, but a worldly one.

God has a plan for you. And I am excited to see what that plan is for you.

Again as I said, you are a testimony. And remember, you will have to share this story in the future, to lead others down the path.

Day 12: On Winning

Seeker108 — Sun, 30 May 2010 05:00:00 GMT

We are preparing to move today. As the conflict between us has lessened drastically, there are few areas we actively disagree in. The biggest one being she no longer wants to be married and I still want to find a way to make this work. But since that is not a topic I am pushing at this pint its not something I can or will address at this time.

Instead I am being a cooperative as I can during today's moving process. I am letting her puck how and when we do things. Its been good so far. She dis make a pointed comment today that hurt. I made a comment about the problems with a good skipping rock it that you can only skip it once. She said its like that with life. You had better appreciate things while you have them in your hand. It hurt. But I didn't respond. It was like she was pointing out that I had my chance with her.

For the duration of the day I made sure she was drinking water and handled dinner. I was patient and calm and kind. Didn't keep it from hurting. It was a long day and separating our stuff hurt. But at the end of the day I rubbed her back and everyone went to bed. Tomorrow is D-Day and I am exhausted, discouraged and afraid. But I am committed to the course I have chosen.

I don't know if any of what I am doing is being noticed or making a difference. I know if any of what I am doing is being noticed or simply seen as the last ditch attempt by a desperate man. Its hard to keep this up with no reward. Though when we were at N.'s talent show K placed her hand on my back. It was the first physical interaction she has initiated in a while.

So this day has ended as many of the others have. Mixed with good and bad with no substantial movement. . I am growing weary of this roller coaster. Tomorrow will be a tough day. Its the one I've been dreading.

HE WON

Sean — Sun, 30 May 2010 05:00:00 GMT

The Bible is good way of getting closer to God, but you must include Prayer as well. And Church helps to have understanding about the word.

2nd Time Day 12

Sean — Mon, 10 May 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Otty, you will have ups and downs. But no matter what they are, you always need to be taking it to God. Prayer and Praise should always be on your lips.

On another note. Step back. Take a look. When you have a good day with her, do you push a little harder for more? I know I did. And it turned into 2 steps back everytime. I came to realize that I was still trying to do it my way. I truly believed that God was trying to get me to realize that I was interfering with his work and not leaving it to him. When I realized that, and really left it to him, things were so much different. Pray about it. Because it may be something you do not realize.

Dare 12

Jason — Tue, 04 May 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Today has been rough, because she seems to want to argue and push my buttons. I started the day by giving in to her about seeing my puppy (Zoe). That may sound silly, but we aren't arguing over anything except that she will not let me see my dog. I really don't understand why I can't see Zoe. I am starting to think that it's just her way of having control over me. She text me later and said that she was uncomfortable with me contacting her everyday. I just asked her to trust in God and let me do what he's leading to do. I really believe that this book was presented to me for a reason. She said that it was disrespectful to her and this new boy that she has started talking to. I wanted to blow my top and tell her how disrespectful and hurtful she has been to me. I didn't though, just said that I mean no disrespect to her and that God is working on me. She asked me if I was trying to get her back. I told her I would always love her, but what I am doing is between me and God. I will continue the dares, because I am learning so much about myself. I like and can respect the person that I am becoming. I am tempted to tell her about doing the dares, though. I kind of gave her a hint before I started, because I asked her to watch Fireproof. I guess she hasn't yet...

Tough going

Leslie Holmes — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Linda, I may be out on a limb here, but it seems like he is playing with your emotions by reminding you that you are getting divorced then saying he doesn't want to break your heart. It seems like he may be pushing you away then pulling you close, which keeps you in a state of confusion (I may be wrong, I'm just going by what I'm reading). I would like to encourage you to remain focused on God. I would like to share with you some of the best marriage advice I've received: Stay focused on God and keep your attention on him. If you do get any good time with your husband, then gravy. But if not, all your attention/affection was focused on God to begin with and you aren't crushed when the husband doesn't respond the way you want him to.

Day 12: Nice Day

Stan — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Well, yesterday was very nice. I had my doubts but I will get past them. We had that 70th birthday party that I helped my wife prepare for the night before and it was a hit, especially all of her desserts and the photo montage poster she made. Everyone kept coming up to me asking if we were the ones that did the desserts, but I gave my wife all the credit and I was so proud of her. Well as the night went on, we were having a great time. Close friends of ours kept coming up and asking how things are going and I would just say I'm taking it one day at a time and the last few days have been wonderful. Well, later on that night when everyone was dancing, my wife had been dancing with some other friends and you know that darn devil popped up on my shoulder and I actually started thinking, "She hasn't danced with me like that in years" that ugly word "jealousy." At that time I walked to the back of the boat, they rented a party boat, and I prayed for strength, guidance and thanked him for his unconditional love and began focusing on the "Appreciation Room". I am so blessed, but like they say as soon as things look like they are going good you tend to want to stray away fro God and that's when Satan strikes. I'm not going to let that happen.

Anyway, from that time on I had a blast and just enjoyed my wife and we had a wonderful time. In fact later that night they ended the night at this place down from the marina and while we where there one of the guests came over to where we were sitting and was telling me what a great job we did and I was in the process of telling him all the praise goes to my wife. She is the talented one I just handled the dishes when she interrupted and said " No, we did it together!" That made me feel real good. Later that night before we went to sleep she thanked me for all my help and said she couldn't have done it with my help. I was taken back by it. I thanked her and said I really enjoyed helping her and the time we spent together the past few nights. I later thanked God for all he has done in just a few short weeks. He is truly remarkable. If you would of told me I would have been doing all of this 3 weeks ago, Loving God, Cherishing my wife because I love her, etc. i would have scoffed at you. As always, thank you for your continued support and prayers. I am still a ways away from where I need to be but I believe I'm heading in the right direction.

As for the Dare: The only thing I could think of was when we were talking about directions. Normally, I would argue with her over the most minuscule thing but not today, not now I suggested one way to get to where we going and she this other way was faster so that is the direction I took and didn't even care if it was faster or not, it still got us to where we needed to be. Thanks Again.

Day 12 and what a job

Sean — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 05:00:00 GMT

rb, things are looking great. But I have to point out, that it seems there is still a real selfish motive here with your last sentence. So, if things aren't what you want them to be your done with the Journey? Remember. You need to follow and serve God unconditionally. Not on your will but his.

Day 12 and not what I expected...

Marvin — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Don't quit, that's what the enemy wants. Remember when Christ wanted to quit? He asked the Father to "let this cup pass from me?" Times get tough bro. As a matter of fact Christ promises us times will get tough. The good news is that He also promises to never leave us or forsake us. He is with you now. Don't quit. Do what Christ did and tell God, "not my will but your will be done." He wants to make you into the man He wants you to be...and you can't get there if you quit. Buck up bro, you're a child of the King!!! Straighten your back up, get on your knees and fight like a man!!! This is spiritual warfare! You can do it!

Day 12

Hanzibar — Sun, 28 Mar 2010 05:00:00 GMT

For this dare I tried making more concessions, going with what she would like to do, and more importantly not criticize or question it. She was quite surprised by this! We also had a nice dinner out together at her favorite restaurant. She seemed to like it, and we had a good time, but as soon as we got home I felt shut out again...

one day at a time has become my new mantra.

Love Dare-Day 12 Feb 28

Leslie Holmes — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 06:00:00 GMT

I often wonder how people survive marriage without the hand of God on their lives. I'm so proud of you for hanging in there and pushing forward with your dares.

Day 12 - Wiki

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