Love fights fair. Today's dare was something that has been needed for sometime. I found that while writing out my list of what not to do's I started to see how the things I would conjure up would instantly take her down a notch but would do nothing whatsoever about the argument. I wrote my own rules as she did not think anything of it and thought it was a waste of time. I am really glad I wrote them out as a couple days later I had to use them. The list popped into my mind and I made rational decisions and took my time explaining to her my point of view. As she had no rules to go by she was going kind of nuts. I kept asking her why she was yelling at me as I loved her very much and why she felt she needed to be so mean. Long story short, she later admitted she had a horrible day at work. Yet, for some reason she was still upset at me. I would have normally got angry and just walked away but the rules helped me maintain my cool and seek out what the real problem was.
Earlier that day I watched the Once Upon a Marriage sermons from LifeChurch http://www.lifechurch.tv/message-archive/watch/once-upon-a-marriage/2
Sermon 2 gave me the courage to step up to fulfill my role as Provider, Protector and Pastor. ESPECIALLY-Pastor
I took the opportunity to ask her if she would pray with me. She was kind of shocked and in disbelief. She said ok (with the hint of anger/shock). I prayed and we went to bed. I felt good. If I can do it, me, you can do it too. I have since asked her to pray with me every morning and evening and she has. I am not the best prayer but I know God hears my heart. Thank you Lord.
Awesome application of what you have learned.
Leslie Holmes
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