Day 2

Day 42 - still studying kindness

Sean — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 05:00:00 GMT

First you need to trust Him. Second. your dares are teaching you to be more interesting.

Yes, there are things that will happen that you will wonder if you should jump at the opportunity. But the question is, if you do, will it take away from your journey? Remember this journey, and we have a jealous God. He must always be first.

Pray through these times of confusion, seek the wisdom and understanding. He is looking for you to come to Him always.

Day 2 is really hard for me

Sean — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 05:00:00 GMT

We all love in different ways. You cannot have any expectations to what you get from him doing them or what you do. I have some journals that may give you better insight into things.

The want is the most important. During your journey, you will learn many things. Pray about them and ask for the wisdom to do the things that are God's will for your husband.

Kindness & confusion........

Sean — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Linda,

I am sure he is not a happy person over there. And when he calls you he may hope for someone that is also not happy. But the more you are a testimony for Christ when you communicate with him, by showing that God is taking care of you, the more it will convict.

Day two 7/5/2010

Sean — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Remember this is a journey with you and Christ. She will be a tool through this all. You must leave her to God. Let him deal with her. Do not try to control the situation.

Remember, if we knew what we were doing we would not be here in the first place.

Scared to be hopeful

Sean — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Denise, Leslie is right. But use the times of no reaction and even negative reaction as a teaching from Christ. These are the things that will humble you to be the person Christ was. With all the rejection, no positive feedback with the blessings he gave us, He still chose to Love US..... And you should do the same.

Day 2 - What is true kindness

Sean — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 05:00:00 GMT

That just shows how foolishly selfish we really are.

my day 2----sore tounge and achy heart

Sean — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Believe it or not. That is a blessing. Those are the things that will make you seek out answers. Things that will humble you even a little to seek out Christ.

But remember. Along this journey she will not believe the changes you will have. There will come a point she will realize it. But until then, she will fight it. She will not like it. She wants you to be as unhappy as she.

Most important. Your journey with Christ is one that you must not try to control. Leave her to Him.

Re: Had to be creative with day 2

Sean — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 05:00:00 GMT

We are blessed. Everything that we did to each other through our marriage there is no way we would be where we are without Christ.

But it could never have been this way without the journey with Christ that the dare put us on.

Thank you for the kind words.

Starting the journey

kassandra115 — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Your story is powerful proof that God does change the heart. How was it to hear Kirk Cameron speak? I didn't even know he was still speaking about the movie. Wow... I agree with your husband. It really is the best movie I've seen thus far.

Running out of ideas

Leslie Holmes — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 05:00:00 GMT

In addition to reading the Love Dare book daily, I strongly encourage you to commit to the 40 days of dares. If you have not watched the movie Fireproof, I recommend that too.

Day 2.... i ask myself is this worth it??

Maynard — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 05:00:00 GMT

don't give up!!!! it's not easy, and it will be even tougher if you give up! that is exactly what the devil wants you to do. don't do it!!! seek christ for guidance and wisdom. he promised that he will give us this, as long as we ask. we have not because we ask not (james 4:2).

Love is kind..

Sean — Fri, 28 May 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Linda, you are in our prayers. Stay strong and keep your focus.

Day 2: Love is kind

Sean — Fri, 28 May 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Stan, I pray for you. But mostly for her. And I hope you can find that way to ease into it. It is something that you both need, I believe her more than you. And remember a family that prays together stays together.

Re: Day 2...Kindness

Sean — Thu, 06 May 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Steph, click on my name it will take you to my page, and there you will see journal, click that and they will all be there.

Kevin, How is it going on this new start?

2nd Time Day 2

Sean — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Maybe not new, but IMPROVED!!!

Day 2

laura84 — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Today was day 2. I woke up early to make my husband a lunch for work and I made him a bagel for the drive to work. He told me that I didn't have to do all this for him. When I got to work he had sent me an email saying " I am having a hard time getting past all of this..." I sent him an email back saying that I was confused by his email and that I am trying to change my ways and I don't plan on stopping. I told him that I know his job is stressful and I thanked him for the hard work that he does. I told him that I hope he has a good day and that I love him and will not stop loving him. I also told him that I am here for him if he needs to talk and I will not pressure him to talk about anything (which I have done in the past). He then sent me an email back saying that He is having a hard time making himself have a "drawn feeling" to me.

I am so confused. I don't know what that really means. Part of me thinks that with all he has going on right now he really doesn't know how he feels or what love is and is taking it out on me. The other part of me thinks that maybe he has no feeling for me at all and has just stopped loving me and this makes me feel like there is no hope.

So far this is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through.

Day 2

Jason — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 05:00:00 GMT

I had a hard time with knowing what to do, since she will not speak to me. So, I prayed. I ultimately decided to take her lunch at work. I dropped it off with the receptionist and left. I wanted no confrontation with Courtney. She text me a few minutes later that "You need to leave me alone." That was shocking and really hurt. I didn't expect that response. I didn't text her back anything. I don't know if I should respect her wishes and not do anymore dares or pray and press forward. I have no idea how we got to this point. I will pray that God will lead me in the right direction.

Jason

Day 2

Kevin — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Day 2 went very good. She called and told me that she had to work late. So after I picked up the children we were going to be driving by here business. So I stopped and got her a cup of her favorite Starbuck's coffee. As we were getting out of the car the children picked a couple of flowers (dandilions) which made a nice topper to us being nice. She didn't act overly excited about the coffee but she did seem to like the fact that the kids were there. Then when she got home she was telling me about her day and all of the activities that went on. It was about an hour after that when I was stealing a small kiss from her that she told me how much she really appreciated the coffee. Apparently I had some lucky timing because they had run out the day before and no one brought any in. So she was actually very excited about the coffee and thank me many times. I have to say it was a good day!

Later that night as we laid down in bed I told her that I have been thinking about her all day. I also told her that she is the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with. She reponded well and told me the same. Things are looking good! But I am still going to continue through the forty dares.

Day 2 for me...

Sean — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 05:00:00 GMT

GREAT!!!! Keep it up. And remember this is a spiritual journey as well.

Day 2 (3-31-10)

Casey — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 05:00:00 GMT

Day 2 went pretty good. It was my night (parenting plan until Divorce is final) to be with the kids. She was painting in our old bedroom and she said we could hangout in the living room, i could cook for the kids, and get them ready to go to bed. So i did those things no problem, but as my act of kindness, i also picked up the house the best i could, took out the trash, and did dishes/cleaned up the kitchen. I did not receive a response for the things i did, but i was not expecting one either. She looked pretty tired from painting all afternoon, so i tought it would be nice for her not to have to worry about cleaning up the house. I know she hd to notice i did those things for her, because i am curently staying with my friends until i find a place of my own.