"You must develop the habit of reigning in your negative thoughts and focusing on the positive attributes of your mate"
As much as I don't want to admit it, creating the "negatives" list was so much easier than creating the "positives." I wonder if that is a representation of how I've been so negative over the past few months/years/however long it has been. For each positive I could think of many negatives: she is stubborn, she refuses to take responsibility, she won't see the other side of the story. These are heavy attributes, not like "stinky morning breath" or "snores." I wonder if these are true negatives, or just my perception of things.
Writing the list of postives was hard. DW is the most beautiful woman in the world, but I didn't want a list of superficial attributes like pretty eyes (YES) or soft skin (YES) but wanted things like fiercly loyal and capable of loving. Even though it was hard to think of these things, writing them down felt good.
I'm writing this entry two days late, so I know the use of the negative list already, but I'm curious what the use of the positive list will be.
Looks like you put a good amount of thought into your lists! great job!
Leslie Holmes
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