Day 7 - Today I wrote down a lot of positives that I think of jess, I will add on if I can think of anymore today. I also wrote on a separate sheet of paper the negatives about her, surprisingly I only had five of those but I had easily 20-30 positives! I will commend her on some of those positives later today. When I told her what I thought of her, she just blew it off. She called my mother and told her that I wasn’t making anything better. Do I put my foot forward one after the other and keep trying or do I quit. I want her more than anything else in this world.
Right now she is looking at this as too little too late. And the dares would not be teaching anything if there was no resistance. She does not trust at all what you are doing right now. She thinks it is a ploy to get her back and if she comes back it will go right back to the way it was.
Focus on your dares. You journey with Christ. She will eventually see that your testimony to Christ, she will see it is not fake.
Keep moving forward, I made my list I had like 8-10 positives in 1 min and only 3 negatives. Gave him praise on one of he positives. We have been getting along well for the last few days. I don't want to get my hopes up, but maybe he is thinking about moving home sooner rather than later. It would be much easier to work on the marriage from the same home.
Focus on your journey with Christ.... The other things will fall into place. And the best news is, you are learning that it takes 3 for this marriage, and you will be so much further ahead when he does come home.