Today i vowed to say nothing that would be hurtful to my spouce and do someting unexpected.  He came home at 2:00 a.m. from work and so when I woke up to go to work this morning I took his clothes and put them in the wash.  He called me later in the morning upset because he couldn't find his work clothes.  When I told him that I had put them in the wash for him he was silent.  He then said, "You did that for me?  Thank you."  It was nice to do something unexpected for him.  I have felt a difference in my attitude toward my hubby.  I really WANT to do things for him.  It isn't always easy, but I LIKE doing these things.  This is the way I felt when we were first married.