This dare hit me like a ton of bricks today!  How many times have I said, I forgive you and yet hold a grudge or keep that hurt in the back of my head to bring up at another time.  How can I use those words and not mean them!  How can I say I love my husband and let something such as lack of forgiveness be a wedge in our marriage!  I know that there will be times that I will need to ask him for time to get over my hurt before I say those words so they are not trite and false statements. Lord, I pray that when I say those three words, I forgive you, that I will mean them in my heart.  I do not want my lack of sincerity to be a wedge in my marriage.  Please help me to be honest and tell my husband when I am hurt and that I need some time.  I know Lord, that it is hard to forgive and forget, and I pray that you will help me in this area.