Fighting fair never used to be a problem for me but then again fairness has always been based on my definition of being fair and admittedly could very well be a bit of a one sided argument sometimes.
The list of rules mentioned in the Love Dare book however seem to be very complete and I resolve to abide by them in future disagreements with my wife. I am not sure if she would be completely open to discuss these rules straight away but will try and make the time to do so with her soon. For now I believe these rules will already defuse potentially explosive situations.