Dare: Before you see your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs. Whether it comes easy for you or not, say "I love you," then express love to them in some tangible way. Go to God in prayer again, thanking Him for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person-unconditionally, the way He loves both of you.

How will this change of motivation affect your relationship and reactions? What does this inspire you to do? What does it inspire you to stop doing? My loving actions need to not be tied in any way to her actions. I am thankful that Christine is so easy to love, but how much of my love has been dependent on that? I have not been tested in this very much, but I am committing today to show affection and attention to Christine no matter what she says or does in return. Specifically, I will try to do a little cleaning up each day even when not asked to do so. I will set a reminder alert on my computer so that I (hopefully) won't forget. I also sent a text message to my brother (and very close friend) asking him to keep me accountable-while my wife and I are on vacation with them-to spend more time with Christine than I do with anyone else. She needs to know that she is still #1 in my life. I'm embarrassed to say I'm not sure that she feels this way at the current moment.