TODAY’S DARE: Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. Perhaps, if appropriate, you could make arrangements to formally renew your wedding vows before a minister and with family present. Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God’s eyes and the high honor of being one with your mate. Throughout this journey, I have promised myself to only focus on the day at hand.  To not look ahead to the next day's dare so to not find myself planning ahead.  Therefore when I read today's dare, I found it ironic that it was about renewing wedding vows.  You see, I am in the process of writing yesterday's letter and the first paragraph of the letter is the opening paragraph of our wedding ceremony.  It's going to be a while before there will be any renewing of vows, but I still have hope that someday, it will happen. When I go back to the beginning of my 40 day journey, I was afraid that I would not be able to do this on my own.  That it couldn't possibly work without my husband in the house and not even knowing what I am doing.  I knew at the time that there was a very good possibility that at the end of my journey, I would still be alone, and I am.  But something else happened that I am so grateful for.  I learned something about myself.  I learned a lot about myself.  I learned how selfish, angry, bitter and resentful I was as a wife.  I learned that I wasn't the best wife and person I could be.  I learned how to change that.  Unfortunately, I have not really been able to practice what I have learned on a grand scale with my husband, but I pray that someday, he will get the chance to see it.  Over the last 40 days, I have climbed out of my pit of despair and hopelesness and into the light of each new day filled with hope.  I have a much more positivie attitude and am no longer wallowing in sorrow.  For those just starting or continuing their journey, I pray for you to commit to finishing it regardless of your situation and changes that might occur.  This Dare isnt't just to save your marriage, it's for you to come to terms with yourself and will benefit you in the long run. For me, this journey is not over. I will continue to practice what I have learned everyday.  I may even continue to write as I continue to progress.  I will continue to pray for my husband and hope that one day, he too will begin this journey.  If he asks me to, I will do it with him.  I pray for myself that I can continue to learn more about myself and why I do the things I do.  I want to be the best person and wife I can be. I will continue to remember my daily mantra. One day at a time.  He loves me.  I believe in our marriage.  Stay positive.  Love him unconditionally.